are our most precious resource. We must protect them from undue
hurt and turmoil. One of the most difficult and painful parts of
a dissolution of marriage concerns the children. You should remember
that in a dissolution action, you are ending your marriage to your
spouse. Neither of you are ending your relationship with your children.
You will no longer be husband and wife, but you will always remain
a father and mother to your children.
is a major personal crisis for adults and children. The stress can
produce physical symptoms as well as behavioral and emotional problems.
Children of different ages may react differently to divorce —
from irritability in infants to drug use in adolescents. Recognizing
the signs of trouble early and helping children deal with
them may prevent serious future problems. You and your spouse can
work out the parenting issues, avoid or minimize the harm to the
children and avoid a court fight. However, if you are unable to
resolve these issues, the court must decide them for you.